Recently, very recently, I drove a relative to the pet hospital. It was the first time I'd driven her van. It had that odd “push-to-start” button that I've never felt comfortable with. She had to give me directions from the back seat where she was trying to cradle her dog.
We
arrived. I stayed outside with the dog, letting her walk back and
forth on the leash while my relative spoke interminably with the
receptionist. The dog was anxious and wouldn't rest.
Eventually
we were called in.
We
were sent to a little room where we waited. The dog ascended through
levels of anxiety approaching panic. She didn't know, but she knew
enough. My relative cried, snarled about the long wait, cried again.
After
too long the veterinarian came in. They spoke briefly, then the vet
took the leash. We left through one door, they left through the
other. I watched over my shoulder because I knew it would be the
last time.
I
drove back again, my relative in the front passenger seat, my hand on
her shoulder. We were about half-way home when she asked if I
thought her dog was gone now. I nodded. “I think so.” She cried
some more and reminisced about first meeting the little brown pup
eleven years before.
“We
didn't know about chocolate labs,” she said more than once. Her
husband had tried to give it away but she told him that they couldn't
abandon a commitment just because it was difficult.
The
commitment was now concluded.
The Entrepreneur
The
entrepreneur is a creature of high reputation. More people call
themselves entrepreneurs than properly are, but that doesn't change
the facts. The entrepreneur is someone who takes the risks that have
never been taken before, who takes the unknowns and makes them fit.
Where there is a gap and the structure does not align the
entrepreneur undertakes to discover something new and make it work,
taking all the risks and uncertainties upon himself and transmuting
them into serviceable certainties.
Where
the engineer is, the entrepreneur was there first. Where the
business is, the entrepreneur was there first. The entrepreneur
turns the mist-covered chaos into clear paths which others may
reliably follow, taking upon himself the risks of doing so and
reserving for himself the rewards.
Where
most of us say “it cannot be done and is not worth speaking of”
the entrepreneur fills the gap with his will, his energy, and his
mind and makes it work.
He
who solves new problems in business is the entrepreneur. He who
solves new problems in life is the entrepreneur of the soul. Where
there is a hole and the pieces do not fit, he pours his soul into the
gap and makes it fit.
In
a business the owner pays himself last. In a military unit the
highest-ranking officer eats last and sleeps last. In a family the
leader cries last if at all.
The Family Head
I
have seen my share of deaths in the family. I have lost relatives by
marriage, relatives by blood, my own father. In each case I had
responsibility for maintaining the family order. I had to be that
rock that created a safe harbor so the others could cry the way they
needed to cry.
The
death of an old & beloved pet is a little thing compared to that
of a family member, but there is still grief. The others still need
to know that the world will be held together.
A
family can be safe and healthy only when its members know that things
will be taken care of. Though they are surrounded by a sea of chaos
they dwell on an island of certainty. That sea of chaos is not just
events over which they have no control, but unknown unknowns –
problems of undiscerned dimension and unknown solution. The island
of certainty does not simply happen to exist; it is of a ruler who
tirelessly orders his proper domain. The chaos waves always lap at
the peaceful shore, and sometimes the tide comes in, but each wave
must be turned away or else the island is eaten up and disappears.
This
is not to say that the head of the family has this responsibility
exclusively -- every adult has this responsibility in some portion of
life – but the head of the family has the highest responsibility
for the family, the final responsibility to be the entrepreneur of
the soul.
An Addendum for Christians
As
a Christian I think there is an additional facet to this role.
In
being the head of my family I learn by experience about the
relationship with God for which the family is but a “type.” I
think leadership is humbling because we learn to see the great need &
supply around us, culminating in the Sustainer Himself.
Leadership
is also humbling because, in filling these gaps, we are worn down and
inevitably encounter challenges for which we have no answer. At
these times we are broken down and learn to rely on God, with an
appreciation for His work we would not have if we had not tried to
echo it in our own little spheres.
In
doing great things we learn to appreciate greatness.
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