https://www.fatherly.com/health-science/psychological-effects-divorce-fathers-men-suicide/
Dean Tong, an advocate for parents who are falsely accused of child abuse, told Fatherly
that divorce often causes “somatic issues such as headaches,
stomachaches, nausea, and vomiting” as well as “mental health issues
such as nightmares, flashbacks, and PTSD.”
One of the most troubling realities of modern divorce for fathers is that it leads to suicide. Men who are not married account for 62 percent of all male suicides, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. One study in 2004 confirmed that divorced people have higher suicide rates than their married peers, and that divorced men are as much as eight times more likely to kill themselves than divorced women, overall.
Augustine Kposowa, a sociologist at the University of California, Riverside and author of this study suggests that such high suicide rates are probably not solely due to loneliness. Instead, he writes, “societal institutions tend to ignore or minimize male problems, as evident in suicide statistics.” Kposowa argues that, after men lose their children in custody battles, they spiral into “resentment, bitterness, anxiety, and depression, reduced self-esteem, and a sense of ‘life not worth living’.”
There are no obvious solutions, but social support helps. Dads going through divorces should make every effort to surround themselves with friends and family, and see their children as often as possible. “Men have fewer friendships and smaller social networks than women do, which sometimes leaves them without anyone when they lose their partner and kids to divorce,” Courtenay says. “For the average guy, his wife and kids are his primary, and sometimes only, source of support.” Which means maintaining strong connections is crucial.
The summer that my brother's first wife ran off with Chad was interesting. Luckily, he didn't have any kids with her, but still he moved into a small camper on this five acre campground of ours for awhile. If you ever seen that movie "Out on a limb" that place looked like Jim and Jim's residence. Beer cans were everywhere. He was in a constant drunken stupor for about three months. It was tough on him. Luckily, he did not have kids taken away from him or his family ostracized from him. Some divorces can be particularly bad.
Lately, I have been hearing stories by Terrence Popp about his divorce and the divorce of others. This is real, and can be real bad. Many husbands will kill themselves, or even kill their ex-family in their rage. I know of coworkers who have gone through tough situations, and actually had one shoot themselves in the head.
If you know of people who are divorcing, make an effort to be there for him. Buy him a beer, and ask if there is anything you can do. Invite him over for dinner. You just may be saving a life.
Divorce and the Psychological Damage Done to Fathers
Divorced men drink and smoke more often; they engage in riskier sex, and are more likely to avoid doctor visits and die of preventable diseases.
Oct 19 2017, 6:13 PM
Ten divorced men
commit suicide each day — a rate at least three times higher than that
of divorced women. Divorced men drink and smoke more often; they engage
in riskier sex, and are more likely to avoid doctor visits and die of
preventable and treatable diseases. Divorce effects on men’s
psychological and physical health can be summed up in a word: “bad.” If
the man in question is a father, a better word would be “horrible.”
“The biggest psychological impact results from the loss of contact with a dad’s partner and kids,” Will Courtenay, psychologist and author of the book Dying To Be Men, told Fatherly. “In the absolute worst case scenario, this leads to severe depression and suicide.”
Perhaps
due to feelings of isolation, divorced dads often quickly abandon
caring for their personal health, Courtenay explains. They eat fewer
fruits and vegetables, they are less careful about using protection
during sex, and less cautious when driving their cars. They visit the
doctor less often, and they don’t bother taking prescribed medications.
Thirty percent of men who live alone haven’t seen a physician within the
past year and 42 percent don’t have a regular physician.
“The biggest psychological impact results from the loss of contact with a dad’s partner and kids,” Will Courtenay, psychologist and author of the book Dying To Be Men, told Fatherly. “In the absolute worst case scenario, this leads to severe depression and suicide.”
One of the most troubling realities of modern divorce for fathers is that it leads to suicide. Men who are not married account for 62 percent of all male suicides, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. One study in 2004 confirmed that divorced people have higher suicide rates than their married peers, and that divorced men are as much as eight times more likely to kill themselves than divorced women, overall.
Augustine Kposowa, a sociologist at the University of California, Riverside and author of this study suggests that such high suicide rates are probably not solely due to loneliness. Instead, he writes, “societal institutions tend to ignore or minimize male problems, as evident in suicide statistics.” Kposowa argues that, after men lose their children in custody battles, they spiral into “resentment, bitterness, anxiety, and depression, reduced self-esteem, and a sense of ‘life not worth living’.”
There are no obvious solutions, but social support helps. Dads going through divorces should make every effort to surround themselves with friends and family, and see their children as often as possible. “Men have fewer friendships and smaller social networks than women do, which sometimes leaves them without anyone when they lose their partner and kids to divorce,” Courtenay says. “For the average guy, his wife and kids are his primary, and sometimes only, source of support.” Which means maintaining strong connections is crucial.
"Divorced men are as much as eight times more likely to kill themselves than divorced women, overall."xxxxxxxxxxxx
The summer that my brother's first wife ran off with Chad was interesting. Luckily, he didn't have any kids with her, but still he moved into a small camper on this five acre campground of ours for awhile. If you ever seen that movie "Out on a limb" that place looked like Jim and Jim's residence. Beer cans were everywhere. He was in a constant drunken stupor for about three months. It was tough on him. Luckily, he did not have kids taken away from him or his family ostracized from him. Some divorces can be particularly bad.
Lately, I have been hearing stories by Terrence Popp about his divorce and the divorce of others. This is real, and can be real bad. Many husbands will kill themselves, or even kill their ex-family in their rage. I know of coworkers who have gone through tough situations, and actually had one shoot themselves in the head.
If you know of people who are divorcing, make an effort to be there for him. Buy him a beer, and ask if there is anything you can do. Invite him over for dinner. You just may be saving a life.
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