How Not to Raise a Son – AKA Avoid These Mistakes if You Care About Your Kid!  (Part 3)

By AutomaticSlim  - The “Alpha” Omega

 

Greetings gents!

Hope everyone is well and enjoying the summer. Figured it was past time for a new article on my

favorite topic, complaining about my life! Hahaha! But seriously let’s get back to discussing how

you can raise your son so he won’t end up like yours truly.

High School.

Last time we spoke about mistakes to avoid raising a young boy who is of the grade school years.

So let’s say for whatever reason, your son has fallen through the cracks and now he is in high

school. He can still be fixed, but this will take a LOT more work. Kids who are different for any

reason will be singled out and either bullied/picked on or isolated (or both). And like I have said

before, your son will almost certainly not come to you with his problems. He will “tough it out”,

and “take it like a man”. He will be afraid that you will be ashamed of him. But guess what? This

is a problem that he will tell you about without words. You know the signs. No friends. No

girlfriends. Not on sports teams. Stays in his room or just mopes around the house. We’ve been

over this before. But what to do with an older kid? What things can be done to get him on the

right track? Well for starters you can’t baby him. An older kid will simply not respond to that.

Breaking him out of this will require boot camp level stuff. And it will not be easy. He will likely

fight you tooth and nail on this. Just keep reminding yourself it’s for his own good and HE WILL

thank you for it years later. He absolutely will.

            - Your boy definitely needs to break out of his shell. Physical training will be a big part of

               this. You will have to aggressively convince him to start building up his body. Taking him

               to workout with you is optimal. Outsourcing to a personal trainer is not so bad either. He

               HAS to hit those weights.

            - Fight training is right in line with the above. Get him in a good program in any type of

              discipline. I believe boxing is excellent, but really any thing else like karate, judo,

              wrestling, whatever, will be fine. Sports “super agent Drew Rosenhaus, yeah I know…

              (Rosenhaus)…once did an interview with 60 minutes where he described himself as a

              teen weakling being picked on. His parents sent him to Tae kwon do training and he

              attributes this to making him the man he eventually became.

            - FORCE him on to some sort of sports team at school! This is imperative if he is to learn

              how to properly relate to other males. To take the ribbings and give them out as well.

            - If your kid is especially difficult in being conducive to the above, consider Military School

              if you can afford it. This is an especially good option to get the boy away from an overbearing

              mother. Again, he will fight you on this, but will thank you for it years later. I WISH my father

              would have done this for me. And yeah, I would have fought it tooth and nail at the time.

             

                          
Let’s hope it doesn’t get this far. Let’s hope you’ve taken an active and aggressive role in training your

son from the get go. But if it does get this far, please, please, PLEASE step it up. Because if it goes past

this point, there is likely no turning back for him. Sure, anything is possible, but if he doesn’t turn it

around in high school, I know what will almost certainly lie ahead. And we’ll talk about that next time.

- Slim