Note from the Author
Its been a while since
I’ve written a blog post. The last real
one was right before my old site, the now defunct A King’s Castle, went
kaput. That said, I’m sure some hazing is
going to happen but I hope that doesn’t stop you from reading the rest
It’s 8am, and in the Nyx household there are about 500
things going on. Kids need to be dressed
and ready for school. My wife is getting
dinner ready for the crock pot. My son
needs to make sure he has his football gear ready for after school. I’m looking over my calendar and planning my
work day. Our 3 year old cant find his
shoes. Any of you guys with families will
know how this routine can go.
One morning I had a horrible allergy attack and felt like
absolute shit. I was irritable to say
the least. Everything was pissing me off
and I was kind of nasty to everyone. Its
out of my character, as I’m pretty chill most of the time. That said, me being on edge caused something
to happen to my family
Things that they’d normally have no problem doing without
direction seemed impossible. The same
chores my kids do day in and day were half assed. My wife was flustered and had
to return after she left to get her keys she forgot. I was late getting out the door and forgot my
lunch, cursing and acting like an animal.
I don’t want to use being sick as a crutch or excuse for my
behavior. They all look to me to steer
the ship. A ship without a captain is
destined to sink, and that’s what was happening. Once I got to work I realized that I was the
one causing anxiety. A guy losing his
shit is the last thing a woman and children want to be around. I vowed to myself to keep my cool in the
mornings, despite what happens.
The next day I did just that and everyone seemed to be
normal. We got out of the house in a
nice calm mood and everyone had a great day, myself included.
Take Aways
You’ve seen it yourselves.
A man flipping out and losing his shit in front of his family. Next time it happens look at the woman and
children’s faces. It’s a look of fear. One I don’t want to give to my family over
trivial things.
We have to be an example for how our families are to
act. You can look at failed marriages or
drug addicted kids and its pretty clear that a house without a true father
figure is the source of dysfunction. Not
always the case sure, but it can be an indicator.
If you feel yourself losing your shit in front of your
family, take a step back. Take a walk
outside for a minute or get a glass of water.
Remove yourself from the emotional/tense setting, pause and go back with
a level head. I’ve been doing this in
all areas of my life and its been helping.
One day I’ll be an old man who is retired with no kids in
the house. The hustle of the day will be
gone. From what I’ve learned from people older than me with kids is that you’ll
one day miss just how important these times were, and I don’t want to let those
memories slip by right in front of me.
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