The F**** Zone

As a guy, most all of us have been there. Back in high school, we want desperately to get a girlfriend. You hint at her, you treat her nicely, you do favors for her. Sure she is nice to you, and you hang out, but she puts up this wall that you cannot cross. You have been friend-zoned. As a young naive kid, you put up with it. You take the time to really impress her, even giving her cards and flowers. Eventually, it cannot be ignored, and so she calls you a creep and lays the blame on you for ruining a "friendship".

Twenty years pass. Your status grows. Her status explodes during her teens and twenties, but then around 27-29, it crashes, just when she decides she can settle down with a "good man". Now, the tables are turned.

This is Sexual Market Value for singles on the open market with respect to age. Within a healthy marriage, this goes away somewhat as values such as honesty, commitment, love, respect, and family override. 

His status is about at his peak, when her market value crashes and she is at the end of her fertility window, the aging is setting in. I like this chart, it shows how short term her high status is, and it also shows his status will never reach what was her peak, but later in life, his is greater than hers for remainder of their days. Have you ever walked into a room and had most women offer to buy you drinks? Me neither. Women have though. But, have you ever noticed that older men rarely have the problem of finding a wife, unlike older women? 

A woman is a gatekeeper to sex. A man is the gatekeeper to relationship. In a traditional setting, this was bartered evenly. He takes her to be his wife in exchange for unrestricted access to her virtuous, young body in return for lifelong commitment and financial support. Feminism has now turned this on its head. Now women restrict commitment ready men from sexual access, virtue, and youth as she spends her late teens and early twenties experimenting with any guy she wants, only to freeze up when she is older. She the average "5" had sex with the men who are 8s and 9s during her 20's. Now, that she is an aging slut, she cannot get even with the 5's for a marriage. If she wants to marry, she will have to settle for the 3's. This is something she is not willing to do.

Since the mid nineties and the sexual revolution permeated society, the term "friend-zone" became popular. The average young man desperately wanted sex or a long term relationship, or at least he wanted a high school girlfriend, and he does his best, however the relationship never progresses past being friends. Dates are not really dates, it is just hanging out (at least that is her take on it).

The "F*** Zone" is very similar to the friend-zone in many regards. Only now, the tables are turned. The average guy (5) is more than happy to get sex from a woman in her thirties, and that is what she is offering in the hopes of expanding the relationship because that is all she really has to offer at this point. She has the F*** Buddy status, and now it is his turn to be using her now that he has the greater status. 

Sorry ladies, but if you threw away your virtue and youth chasing that carousel, you have no reason to complain that guys will not commit to you now that you finally want it. The world does not revolve around you. You now have to put up with the F*** Zone, just like you made the guys put up with the friend zone when you were younger. The worst of it is, Joe can work on himself and improve to get out of the friend-zone. You will continue to get older and less desirable. The only way you are getting out of the f*** zone is by either swallowing your pride and lowering your standards, or by entering the cat zone.

You gave away your best (innocence, virtue and beauty) to Chad and Tyrone in your youth for pennies (a few pickup lines and a netflix video). Why should Joe pay top dollar (a lifelong commitment) for your worst? The only guys that will want that are the bottom scrapers.