Where have all the good women gone?

Something I wrote awhile ago, (with a few revisions) Where have all the good women gone? Several months ago, I answered the question "Where have all the good men gone?". Today, I thought I could write up the answer to the other side of the question. WHAT HAPPENED TO THE GOOD WOMEN? 1. Women are taught to not be good. We spend quite a lot of time in the manosphere talking about feminism and the media, and the effect it has on women. Sex in the City teaches women that they can sleep around for 20 years without consequence. Anti "body shaming" rhetoric teaches women they can be fat and still hold their value. Women are taught if they work a $100k career that men will want to cater to them. They are lied to by unattractive feminists so they become unattractive themselves. Most women who have any connectivity to the world at large succumb to the siren song of the carousel, chasing a career, living in the fast lane and/or the drive thru lane at McDonalds on the belief that Prince will be waiting for her when she crosses the finish line at 30. 2. Dating Apps is too much of a temptation for most women Dating Apps have thousands of thirsty men for women to scroll through. They get free dinners, endless guys wanting to sleep with them, and thousands of simps doting over their selfies. This ruins women. What would be a good girl prior to the internet now sleeps around, revels in attention, and gets inflated expectations from the free dinners. 3. The Betty Crocker Housewife is denigrated Many old feminists who cannot get a relationship (much like the incels who cannot get sex) wind up bitter at the young mothers who stay home with their 4-8 kids. There is resentment. An old feminist will say that the good married girl is a slave to her husband (while she works in her cubicle), and scoff at women who sacrifice for their children. It really is jealousy. (Not unlike the incels who call men who get girls "puxxy beggars"). People in general get mad at others who get what they can't have and will berate them. Unfortunately, young impressionable women listen to this and think maybe family isn't for them, at least not until they hit 30 and they get the baby rabies. By then, however those would-have-been good women are not good anymore. 4. Good women are ignored in their youth Oddly enough, the good women out there do not get attention in their youth. While young, the young men will ignore them. My wife told me that she thought she was ugly when she was young because she could not get a date. There are two reasons for a guy to put in effort in dating, sex and looking to marry. If the woman puts out a vibe that sex will not be an option, and you are too young to consider marriage, why bother dating them? There is a difference between sexual attention and relationship attention, and until they are of marriagable age (20-28) good women are starved for attention and often slip up. 5. Good women get old I know of a few women (in church) whom I believe still are virgins or only have one or two notches while they are approaching 40. They were reasonably good women back in the day, but they focused on their careers for too long, were too picky, and/or with age developed alpha tendencies which are off putting to men. The years of solitude creates an attitude of independence in women that is not appealing. They turned their necessity (independence) into a virtue. These women have aged out and are no longer good. SO WHERE ARE THE FEW REMAINING GOOD WOMEN? 1. Good Women are Fairly Rare and Disappear Quickly Looking at my high school class in my small hometown, there were maybe 1 or 2 girls whom I would have considered for marriage. Both were clean, good looking, and were pleasant to be around. That is, until they went off to college. One left her Catholic house, became a feminist hippy and went off the deep end for more than a decade. She eventually married a professor (beta provider) and now lives on the Oregon Coast. The other dropped out of college, married her High School sweetheart at 19 and they now run a huge cattle ranch near my hometown (husband's family has money). There were 5 other girls in my class who were sluts and/or ugly that I avoided. So in the sample size of my class, there was only 1/7 or 14% whom I would consider a good find. This particular girl dated her HS boyfriend and married him, so she would have never been on the market for any guy over 18 and looking. In church, the young virginal 18 year olds get attention right away, and guys are looking to latch onto them right from the opening gate. Since all women want sex but the good girls will wait until marriage, the good girls will marry by 20, or they will marry by 22 if they decide to go on a mission (that was my wife). I come home from my mission, and we start dating that week (we previously had an awkward casual but not so casual dating relationship). So really, there was only about 6 months where she was on the open market. Compare that to an average woman who spends 10-15 years on the open market, and that reduces their availability to maybe 5 percent of the average woman's time. Multiply the ratio of good women AND the time they are on the market and you have less than 1% of available women on the market actually being good girls. Never will a good girl go to the typical meet markets like bars, clubs, dating websites, or frat parties. They hang out with a rather exclusive group and will be suspicious of any new guys who follow them to their hangouts. So if you are a typical guy with typical friends, cruising the typical places, you will never see them. Or at best, see them only in passing in your college classes. They will be wearing plain clothes, keep to themselves, and be suspicious of unfamiliar guys hitting on them. You need to become a part of her group and take time to win her over. 2. Good women don't like slackers/rebels/boring/bad boys/thirsty/poor/short/skinny/.....etc. A good girl of marriagable age is in high demand. You must be good looking, and conquer each of the Men's Walls. You cannot be thirsty and simpish or you will probably latch onto a chameleon before properly vetting her. If you are thirsty, you won't get a good girl, and you will probably end up paying for it. Good women have unnaturally high morals, and will expect the same from you. You have to be a clean guy, have a strong moral character, be dependable, but at the same time be exciting to her and play to her AWALT tendencies. In short, you have to be the young Chad who the women will flock to, but also you have to turn down any loose women to placate her "good" side. Demonstrate that you are a Christian Chad by dating (not sleeping) around in her little community. Like all women, good women will want only guys that other women want, but she will want you to not sleep around with them either. It is a difficult balance, too difficult for most guys to have. 3. Good women have a short shelf life Like I said, they are rare. I really don't think there is a good woman out there over the age of 24 who is not already married. A good woman will want to marry off ASAP so they can get sex without moral issues. A good woman wants to have a family to take care of. All of the 40+ women I mentioned that have a low notch count were more interested in having a career and making names for themselves than a family. Then there are divorced women who may have been good, but that act of divorce will destroy a woman's innocence and she will become hostile, a user, or just too old. If you are young enough, and think you have what it takes, look at the religious colleges, look in churches (not the "repentant" women in their 30's), look at grocery stores. Try to become part of positive social groups. But most importantly, become the young man that a good woman wants and win her over. 4. If you do get a good girl, work to help her remain good. So you luck/skill out and manage to marry a genuine good girl. Your work has only begun. A good girl will follow you wherever you go, which means if you only put up a facade to win her over, she will follow you into your naturally lower character state (or lower than that if she sees you as a hypocrite and seeks petty revenge) You will need to continue to go to church, read your scriptures, be faithful, stay away from bad habits, have clean language, watch clean media, etc. If you fail at this, she will fail to remain good, and you will be where too many people are today. 5. Good women are not available to you under most circumstances In short, if you are over 30, they don't exist for you. By definition, a good available woman is 18-24. If she is a good woman that young, she will not want you if you are over 30. She will want to build a family with a young ambitious man, not latch onto someone who is older with money (those are called "gold-diggers" and will be looking to divorce-rape you eventually). Best to accept things as they are and move on with your life. You missed your shot.

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