Is the carousel a result of women's failure to launch?

 

We all heard the trope "men never seem to be growing up anymore, they hang out and play video games and never want to take anything seriously".  Today, I posted the "Momma's Boys" article on this website, and got into a conversation with a fellow about the carousel. Could it be that women fail to launch just as men do, but they fail in a different manner because they have their youth going for them in that time when guys are more prone to be sucking at life?

There are surprisingly quite a number of similarities between the two. Both are living this single life, both are doing little to improve themselves, both are living in the moment, they usually lack ambition for decent housekeeping, both have recently picked up substance abuse issues. Carousel riders are having more fun, but like their basement dwelling counterparts, they earn little genuine respect from others. (SIMPs throwing them accolades is not genuine respect).

The major difference comes in the results. While younger men may be going out with their friends, or working crap jobs, they usually are in a dry spell of their dating lives. On the other hand, women at that age have all sorts of male attention thrown at them. 20-something carousel riders will have men in their 30's pump and dump them as much as they desire. For them, it is attention and a dopamine hit. They spend hours on their phones, getting the next connection. Men are not so lucky. In their 20's, few men will get attention from women. They have not built up their careers yet. They have not filled out physically, and still show signs of immaturity. Women will simply ignore the young men until they develop the maturity necessary and launch. Older men will simply ignore the young women's immaturity, lack of a career, and look more at the young woman's slim figure as she has not filled out yet.

For me, I finally decided to launch in the fall of 1995. I was 20 and decided to go to college and eventually church. I decided to make a plan with my life and follow through, If I didn't, I had a strong feeling that I would have became a loser. It took me another 5 years to really get my act together enough to gain attention from women. 

Women are like that with relationship attention. They will party it up in their 20's, and sleep around. Guys will want sex, but they "are not ready for a relationship" at that time. Unfortunately, by the time many come to that epiphany that they need to do something with their life before they become losers (just like I did), but a little too late. By the time the carousel riders want to use their attractiveness to get a family, they have lost it and are on the track to become full fledged losers. They may lower their standards, but not enough. By the time 35 comes around, their options are bleak. They may have turned their lives around, but what is in the past cannot be undone. There are no do-overs when it comes to squandering your youth,  especially for women.