Many of us have seen this poster displayed by feminists. They use it to display how backwards and sexist us brutish men are. Personally, I find little wrong with it. A good wife will want to please her husband, and help create a pleasant home to live in. Not only will it make him happy, but she will be happier as well as the children. A wife who is feminine and ambitious in the home is certainly a treasure for most men, and will be highly respected and valued. I thought it may be a good idea to take it, and expand on the 18 points to bring them up to a 2020's standpoint.
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1) Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.
A good meal is nice to come home to in the evening. It is something I look forward to every afternoon. I love the meals where some thought was put into it. Usually, I get home, and she is halfway through cooking it. The kids will be playing outside or finishing up their homework. I will go into the kitchen and pester her a bit, or help out if she needs anything done. This is a good time to wind down, maybe chat with her and the kids about the events of the day. We have the kids set the table.
We are a family that eats at the table. I really think this is important to learn communication skills and to get to know each other better. We start off with a prayer. (no snitching until then) As head of the household, I call on someone random to say the prayer and we dig in. Our oldest boy is the loudest and tries to dominate the conversation, but we do our best to make sure others are heard. Afterwards, we take our plates to the sink and we will get two to do the dishes. I try to spread around the chores evenly, but it seems like the oldest girls end up doing it more often. Will even have the four year old help as much as possible, even though it is usually more of a hindrance.
I try to compliment her on her cooking, and drop a few hints on her food. I will cook a few meals on the weekends, and help out. Cooking is primarily her responsibility though. You may discuss healthy food options with her (home-made yogurt is excellent replacement for cream cheese, a gallon of milk will make 2/3 of a gallon yogurt), or what foods you like.
If possible, avoid buying the snacky type foods that the kids will snitch and eat throughout the day. Maybe apples or grapes are fine, but cut out the chips, soda and other garbage. Cut down on the sugar and grease in your cooking as well. In time, as the kids move out, I plan on cutting way back on the carbs, but for now, carbs are needed to fill their bellies without emptying my wallet.
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