How Hollywood Messes Up Relationships - Part 1 Drama

 

If this were a real life situation, Alice would be scared and calling the police

Hollywood exists to sell movies and advertisements. In order to do that, they need to take you (the audience) on an emotional roller coaster. This is all well, because they control the script. They can have the emotional roller coaster, and still have things turn out great in the end. This does not work out so well in the real world.

A prime example of this is Ralph Kramden of "The Honeymooners". He was this very emotional guy, who gets ticked off and shouts easily. He threatened to smack his wife in the face, he called people names, he goes on these emotional tirades, and yet things seemed to always work out well in the end of the 20 minute show. 

If Ralph were a real person, he probably would be put in jail several times for his behavior, or at the very least, Alice would have left him and he would be living in the back of his Buick until the day he shot himself. 

Most men know that this is fiction and that there would be real consequences to behaving this way. Many women do not, however. I've known several to go on these emotional tangents, which may look interesting to a third party witness, but really stinks for those directly involved. 

Emotional intensity does not equal emotional quality, quite the opposite in fact. A sane person will not put up with someone who flips their lid for every little incident, even if half of those emotions displayed are excitement, happiness, lust, or love. People respond better to stoicism. They like to know you are a reasonable listener, someone that will not be scary to talk to. In reality, negative emotional damage will wreck relationships far quicker than any positive emotional displays of affection have the ability to heal. 

In your personal life, ignore the movies which show these love stories or crazy adventures. Life is pretty boring, and that's OK. We are not supposed to be having excitement at all times. With drama comes danger. Drama almost always works out well in the movies, hardly ever in real life.