Here is a comment I came across online discussing how women experience and deal with fear. It was insightful for me. Perhaps you can draw something from it as well.
The first paragraph is a quote from someone else's comment. The response is written by a woman.
@70 "most times women just want to chat with someone and wind down for a few minutes after a busy day. I doubt they're always scared - don't forget they're social creatures. Maybe it helps them feel important?"
Whew. No. Women are naturally prey animals; they naturally, usually unconsciously, look for protection. The chatting, the 'being social' with a man from whom they are TAKING something (his time and effort, his protection, the possibility of him being hurt letting HER escape) is part payment for his 'offer' to her.
How do women deal with fear? NETWORKING! By looking to those around them for support and help and 'a group.' Being alone, be shunned or cast out of the tribe MEANS death. It's why women are so easily swayed by their milieu (and thus the destruction of our nation)!
So, by chattering with her protector-escort, she is ensuring his attention on protecting her, else he might wander off and leave her unprotected. And, 'charming' is how women work to get their way' again: consciously or not.
And yes, women are ALWAYS scared. Ask your peers: does a man EVER EVER think to himself, before going down the drive to his mailbox, of he is safe to do so? Even in many dangerous areas; it NEVER crosses him mind. NO woman ever thinks about going down the drive to the mailbox after dark without thinking, however fleetingly, of her safety. Even IF she lives in a safe-ish White area! Men NEVER get this about women's minds!
Alison Armstrong, a good educator, talks about one of her co-ed seminars, where she asked the men to hold up their hands if they have felt physically threatened in the past year. Some hands go up, but few. Okay, if you men have felt a physical threat in the past month, leave your hands up. Fewer hands still up. How 'bout this past week. No hands.
Okay, women: hands up if you have felt physically threatened in the past year. Nearly all hands go up. Past month? Only a few go down. Past week, still only a few go down.
Alison then tells the men: LOOK at how many hands are still up, for having felt physically threatened in the past week. This is not something wrong or strange about women. This is how woman are BUILT to feel. You men generally have no conception of being afraid pretty much most of the time. Nearly all women do!
Think that's stupid, start asking women around you. See if they'll just head out of the house for the mailbox at night. See if they leave a store, at night, at dusk, more and more during the day, withOUT checking their surroundings. Do NOT assume women feel the way you do. Prey vs. predator.
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