Parallels between Sex and Relationship Part 1

 Awhile back, I was trolling a feminist site (a different one this time) and this woman was going off on the incels who can't ever get sex and making fun of them. I retorted something about femcels, which are essentially cat ladies. This got me thinking about how sex and relationship are similar. 

Women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers of relationship. 

We all know it is women who control who can have sex with them. Most guys are willing to sleep with a woman 3-4 SMV points below their own, but women are much more selective with who they sleep with. Biologically, this makes sense. A woman will have the child, raise it, and take care of it. Naturally she will want the best genetics for that child she can get. A typical woman has the ability to have only 6-10 children in her life, and that is if she is taken care of in a stable environment. The choice of who she has those kids with needs to be good. Conversely, a man has the biological ability to scatter his seed to thousands of women in his lifetime. While this does not happen typically, he is not the reproductive bottleneck. She is the one who holds the cards in this regard.

Conversely, as far as relationships, the cost goes to the man. He is the one tasked with providing the home, providing a safe location to raise the child. A woman, on the other hand, is taken care of. She spends little in the relationship, and will be better off economically for being in a relationship. Unfortunately, because marriage is a 1 to 1 thing, a man cannot expect a woman higher than his own SMV score like women can do with sex. Theoretically, this could be done in a polymerous society, but that is just sick and wrong. Men do not share women, and the woman will bond with only one of the men. Economically, a man will lose out every time he makes and breaks a relationship while a woman will not. Because the man bears the cost economically, he is the one who holds the cards in allowing a relationship or not.

Incels are made fun of, cat ladies are made fun of. 

We all have heard the jokes, the memes about the guys who can't get laid, and the cat ladies. Although different ages, they have similar problems of being deemed too unattractive and having personal issues causing their inability to get what they want from the opposite sex. 

While women make fun of incels, I find that men typically don't. We know how hard it is for a young kid to attract women into bed. For men, there is typically sympathy or empathy for the low value guys because in the back of our minds, we know we can be a car wreck away from getting the same fate. On the flip side, women have an innate fear of dying alone. Women will show more empathy and sympathy to cat ladies than men. We men make fun of that because we are fine living alone, plus we know of the struggles we had to go through in our youth to get women, and it is sort of a delayed and misplaced revenge on women who cannot get a relationship because of poor choices early in life. What is sad however, is women are not fine alone. They have a hard time cleaning the gutters, mowing lawns and fixing things. They fear winding up alone once they reach that epiphany stage. Since social media took off, the number of incels has increased. Also, at the same time, the number of cat ladies increased, coincidence? 

Sexually attractive virgins are sought after by men (unicorns), wealthy attractive bachelor playboys are sought after by women (studs). 

A woman who would be prime in a relationship are sought after by men. A young healthy (attractive) virgin is reproductively wealthy to a man's reptilian brain. As it is a high cost for men to get a relationship, the few women who fit the bill are competed for. Most lower value women envy the unicorn that guys compete to get into a relationship with and will talk disparagingly about them.

If you flip the script, the same way is with men. A man who is healthy, wealthy, and wise is attractive to a woman's reptilian brain. As these attractive men are in short supply, the few men who fit the bill is competed for by women, often with promiscuous sex. Most men envy the few men that are able to have sex with many woman for entertainment purposes only. 

I have seen many feminists complain about the slut/stud double standard. The problem is their comparison is bad. A more accurate comparison is my next paragraph. 

Sluts get shamed mostly by other women, simps get shamed mostly by other men. 

A neighborhood ma and pa bicycle shop will not like it if Wal-Mart comes in and sells Chinese made bikes for half the cost. Quality goes down, but the public will be happy to pay the lower price for a similar product. Same way with sluts. Other women hate that because it undercuts their price. A slut comes in and gives out sex for pennies on the dollar. Men will go to that slut and get the commodity they want thereby reducing the value. Although many women say slut shaming comes from men, I don't see that. Many men are happy to get sex for little out of pocket cost. Men will say "we love the dirty little sluts", but in actuality they are only using them for sex and are planning to. In actuality, slut shaming typically comes from women who want to hold the cost of their sex up, so they can leverage men into getting commitment.

Same way with men. We have spent decades establishing a price for women to get married. (No hymen, no diamond, cook, clean, regular sex after marriage, etc.) Lately, that has been undercut with feminist messaging. Simps have accepted the lower value that feminism has pushed out there, thereby dropping the price women pay for marriage. Many women enjoy simps, putting men in the "friendzone", thereby getting the benefits of a relationship (free food, attention, time, money) from men they do not find attractive enough to sleep with. They will say "We love the nice guy", but in actuality they only like using simps for the freebees. In actuality, simp shaming comes from men who want to hold women accountable in relationships. They are of the devil and need to be destroyed. 

Women want to be treated like sex objects, men want to be treated like relationship objects.

To be continued in part 2.

Modern society encourages women to become sluts but reduce their sexiness. Modern media also encourages men to become simps but reduce their traditional roles.

To be continued in part 3.

Binding a man with a legal marriage document for relationship is similar to binding a woman with ropes for sex.

To be continued in part 4.