I’m at a point in my life where I don’t want dinners I don’t want to go on dates. It’s boring to me, all that is boring. I want a man who offers to mow the lawns lol or sees something broken in the house and fixes it, someone who will get coolant for my car lol
But men these days do the same thing. 1. Coffee dates 2. Going out to dinner 3. Go out on the town 4. Hanging out (usually drinking) at home. 5. Short trips/vacations etc I don’t want all that. I’ve told them this but they say they want to offer me an “escape from day to day life” whereas I want someone who wants to be part of my day to day life.
I don’t know what to do. Or where to meet a man with the same values as
me. I want a man who is willing to lighten the load and we can build together.
I don’t want a man willing to wine and dine me just so they can hit it. 😔 I end up breaking things off because it stays in that stagnant
place of wining and dining. How many dinners do we need to go on? How many
vacations or overnight stays in fancy hotels is enough for them? I don’t want
that 😭 I don’t know where to meet a real family man.
With divorce courts, it is a hard bargain to get a man to want to be in a relationship today. The guys you mentioned are doing what it takes for sex as low investment as possible. By the sound of your post, you want a handyman.
If you want to get in a relationship, understand that while dating for sex, women have the power, but in dating for a relationship, men have the power. That means it is up to you to entice men to get into a relationship. Simply letting guys "hit it" is the opposite. Guys may not know your past, but they can sense your ballpark number, and it matters to them. Heavy makeup, tattoos, drama, etc. all are clues. The "real family man" wants a real family woman.
As a woman you need to demonstrate that you have the
things a family man would want. #1 is integrity. He will not get into a
relationship with someone he doesn't trust. Kids, you must want and love kids.
You need to be a good cook and keep an orderly house. Have a healthy physique,
a loving and friendly demeanor. Be spiritually clean, emotionally clean, and
physically clean.
@Jim Johnson I have three children (to one man). I was with him for 16 years, he was twenty years older then me and met me at 17 when I had low self esteem.
My mum taught me by her example how to “stick it out” my dad at times physically violent but changed once he went back to church. My mum was the only breadwinner and bomb housewife she was nurturing and kind I cook, clean (I worked in housekeeping to pay for my own education) I am modest and don’t perv on men and don’t even show people on social media that I drive a luxury car and my career is taking off because I am a Divine Feminine and don’t need external validation. I am rare in this day and age, I grew up in church and was taught that to look on a man with lust in your heart is cheating, I don’t watch porn I don’t watch drama shows every single day I read and play imstruments and sing and do kickboxing, fulfilling activities on my own because I’m not a thot who needs attention from ransoms.
People are amazed at my children. How deep and spiritual and well mannered and confident they are. I know my worth as a women and want a family man worthy to lead me and then eventually them.
But the men that I’ve dated over the last year are little boys who do what they see on “TV” in order to trick a women to having feelings for them.
I have a bomb figure, why do you think they take me on vacations, but character wise they are not the caliber of man I am equal too.
What I want is a true family man. A man given honour by God because of their morals, I want a man who will do those masculine things like change a tire and fix household shit. How humble is that? Do I have to spell it out for yous? Most thots these days WANT a man who wines and dines them but I’m asking for help to mow the lawn gtf out of here.
I know who tf I am. I shared here to put out into the universe that I now know who I am. I know my true worth. I also know my humble request will be perceived wrong by the fickle little triggered masses.
I’m presenting here that I’m NOT shallow, I DONT want men who pretend they want marriage but really just want a fine fit strong career “come up” women they want to be seen with on their arm. Thot men who think my honorable reputation will help heel their disgusting ones.
Little boys are keen to wine and dine
women to get them emotionally hooked so they can get sex, but a real man will
do those little things a REAL women wants. Acts of service (my love language)
and a masculine man that prides themselves on doing masculine tasks….those men
are worthy to take the lead.
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Some words from Jim:
This woman is a cat lady, she just doesn't know it yet. Sure, she is skinny, but far too old to be attractive to any "family man" with a set of values or ambition in his life. Couple that with her body count illuded to in her statement "But men these days do the same thing." and lists the low investment pickup game from guys. She has been through the routine so many times that she knows the deal.
From her statements, you know she divorced her husband for friviolous reasons because she does not mention "he was abusive, he cheated, he was a drug addict, or he divorced me". She made her bed and now has to lay in it. With her body, she could have done well in her youth, and she probably got some sexual attention from men while married and thought she could do better. Not anymore. She might as well ride the carousell to the bitter end.
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