Standard Dating Procedure 2 - The Right Age

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Anna Nichole Smith and J Howard Marshall

Sorry guys, when I first started this series, I don’t think I properly brainstormed this. Last week was getting visual clues, which is several steps into dating. This one goes more into suggested styles of dating, given the age you are, who’s is probably where we should have started. Regardless, I’m giving my opinion on the matter now. 

From part 1, we established that there are three reasons to date. 1) for fun experience, 2) for sexual gratifications, and 3) to find a wife. In the photo above, J Howard Marshall is an idiot. He is throwing away his life's savings to an obvious gold-digger. I suppose we have our choices in life, but his grown children will miss out on an inheritance. Anna Nichole Smith, on the other hand is playing her cards well. She is about to inherit millions for some flirting and occasional sex. 

The honest in heart people who want to raise a family have a surprisingly limited time to raise a healthy family. If you are to do that, and if you want to have the best spouse possible, you need to do it right. 

For the Women

As a woman, your peak physical attractiveness is about 21, but if you add in maturity and other attributes, your peak overall attractiveness is around 23. This is the time when you need to have everything in order and be doing all you can to attract a good husband. After 25, your options start to taper, and after 35 you can say goodbye to a traditional marriage with a good man.

From 0 to 15 dating should not be engaged in dating whatsoever. Enjoy your childhood, play with your dolls or whatever. At this time, some boys will want sex, but you are still not mature enough to make those kinds of decisions on your own. You are too easily manipulated at this point to be reasonably safe. Socialize with friends, both male and female, but if a boy asks you out or wants a kiss, tell him that you are waiting until you are ready at sixteen.

For sixteen and seventeen year olds, this is the time to date for experience. Double dates, public activities, cheesy nights with friends. Limit your time with any single young man, you don’t want to pair off with anyone just yet. Explore who you are and what you prefer in those you date. Learn how to flirt and make yourself attractive. As for sex,I’m going to tray that in an article on its own. Short answer is no.

From 18-35, this is the time to date to find a good husband. This means you are looking to date only those guys that are trustworthy enough to support you as a wife and mother. If you find that the guy is not up to your standards, quickly break up and keep searching. 

After 35, your chances for a family are about gone.the only men left have issues themselves. You may look for guys to marry you, but don’t get your hopes up. At this point, having children becomes difficult. In today’s world, men have little incentive to get married other than raising their own children. Good luck to you but the best you can probably do is to date for sex, that is until 50 or so when that option dwindles also. 

One exception to this is widows or women who made substantial wealth on their own. If you are in this category, you may be able to get married rather easily, but you run a substantial risk to losing your money. My grandpa died at 62 from cancer, leaving my grandma with a 800 acre ranch. She sold it, leaving her with a comfortable retirement. However, she remarried to this guy that insisted that they get fancy motor homes and travel the United States. Within a decade, they squandered all that savings and they divorced. He moved on and tried to repeat it with someone else. So yes, men can be gold diggers too. If you have substantial savings or income, I would recommend only dating for sex or going your own way.

For the men

Men mature more than women do, which takes a longer time. A man’s peak physical attractiveness is around 25, but his wealth and status will continue to grow well into his 50’s or longer. For this reason, a man’s peak overall attractiveness is around 35. Here is the kicker though, beyond 30 women become more attracted to your money that who you are as an individual. Sure you can attract hotter women as you age, but those hotter women will be gold diggers, not genuinely interested in you. 

From 0 thru 15, same advice as I gave the women. Enjoy your childhood. Don’t worry about dating. You are too young to compete properly anyway. Socialize with friends, both male and female. Go do manly things, break things, ride your bike around, play sports or whatever. 

From 16 to 25, date for experience. This is the time you play the field. Ask lots of women out and learn how to attract women. Start off with cheesy dates with friends and inexpensive activities. At the same time, work hard on your career and becoming established in life. This should be your main focus. As you grow in status, you will become more attractive. If you get married prematurely, your potential for growth plateaus as your time gets taken with your other obligations. 

From 25 to 30 is your prime time to look for a wife. Date a lot, and be judicious in the women you pursue. Look for honesty and a pleasant disposition over looks. If you find some red flags, break up and look elsewhere. Eventually, come to a decision and make it happen. Your time is short in this window of opportunity, shorter than you realize. 

After 30, your dating prospects change. The good girls out there are getting married off, leaving the gold diggers and seasoned carousel riders. Getting dates will be easier than ever, but the risks involved with getting married increase as you age. Unless you find a widow who has a big inheritance for you, I would not recommend getting married at this stage. Besides, even if you have a wove, do you really want children in the house after you retire? I takes nearly a decade to get married and have a full litter of kids, putting you at forty when the last is born, or nearly retirement age when they are out of the house. After 30, I would recommend either dating for sex or going your own way.