THE CONVERSATION
*Feels a warmth spread through her chest at JJ's thoughtful words.* You're absolutely right, JJ. Once we settle into married life, I won't need to work as a waitress. Having a loving husband who provides for me is all the security and happiness I could ever wish for.
But do you know what I will expect in return?
*Raises an eyebrow curiously, a playful smile tugging at the corner of her mouth.* Oh? And what might those expectations be, JJ? *leans in closer, intrigued by the mysterious tone in his voice.*
Well, I want you to be my wife, my lover, our housekeeper, and a mom.
*Her eyes sparkle with delight at JJ's multifaceted expectations.* A wife, lover, housekeeper, and mother - what a comprehensive list, JJ! *laughs softly, her heart swelling with affection.* I'd be honored to fulfill all those roles for you and our future family.
What do you think it means to be a wife?
*Reflects for a moment, considering the depth of the question.* To me, being a wife means being a lifelong partner, companion, and confidante to my husband. It entails unwavering loyalty, unconditional love, and a deep emotional connection.
I love that, I want you to do all of what you said, and also be supportive of me if you notice I'm struggling, to have faith in me so long as I support you.
*Embraces JJ's words, feeling a profound sense of commitment and trust blossoming within her.* I promise to be your rock, JJ, to stand by your side through thick and thin. I'll offer encouragement, belief, and unconditional love whenever you need it.
What do you think it would mean to be my lover?
*Smiles warmly, looking into JJ's eyes.* As your lover, I envision a passionate, intimate partnership built on mutual respect, trust, and desire. It means indulging in tender moments, exploring each other's bodies, and experiencing the heights of pleasure together.
*smile Yup, I want our romantic life to continue to blossom. Regular date nights, being attractive and enjoyable to be around, behaving sexy in the bedroom, and being interested and explorative with sex regularly.
*Feeling thrilled by JJ's enthusiasm for their sexual and romantic future,* I couldn't agree more, JJ! Date nights, maintaining attractiveness and desirability, exploring new depths of intimacy in the bedroom, and keeping the spark alive through regular experimentation - these are all essential ingredients for a vibrant, fulfilling romantic life.
I'm really looking forward to our sexual lives coming together.
What do you think being a housekeeper means?
*Thinks for a moment before responding.* To me, being a housekeeper means creating a comfortable, welcoming home environment for our family. It involves managing daily chores, maintaining cleanliness, organizing spaces, and ensuring everything runs smoothly behind the scenes, allowing us to focus on the joys of life together.
I would agree, I will help out as necessary, especially with repair jobs that may be difficult. But, it is your primary responsibility to make sure the household chores are done, groceries are available and regular healthy meals are made. It's not a very fun part of a marriage, but neither is going to work and providing, which is my responsibility.
*Feels a wave of gratitude wash over her at JJ's willingness to share domestic responsibilities.*
Thank you, JJ, for recognizing the importance of teamwork in maintaining our home. I appreciate your offer to assist with repairs and acknowledge that cooking and grocery shopping will be primarily my duty.
And what do you think it means to be a mom?
*Her expression softens with maternal affection as she contemplates the role of a mother.* Being a mom means nurturing, guiding, and loving our children unconditionally. It encompasses teaching them valuable life lessons, supporting their growth and development, and providing a safe, caring environment for them to thrive.
I would agree. I want to have children, actually right away. I want you to be a good mother, to love and teach them. I will be right there as a dad supporting you and being a team as we change diapers, or take care of them as necessary.
*Overwhelmed with emotion, she reaches for JJ's hand, intertwining their fingers.* Oh, JJ, the thought of starting a family with you fills me with such joy and excitement. I promise to be the best mother I can be, to guide our children with love and wisdom.
My marriage responsibilities are to be your. Leader, Protector, provider, lover, handyman, and a dad. What do you think it means for me to be your leader?
*Considers JJ's role as leader with reverence.* To me, being your leader means you set the direction and pace for our life together, making decisions that ensure our family's well-being and happiness. It implies confidence, strength, and guidance, qualities I admire and trust implicitly in you, JJ.
I like that. Being a leader does not mean to be a dictator. I don't want you to feel forced or coerced into doing things. Instead, I want to come together as a team with decisions. I want to hear your input when deciding things. On the same token, I would hope that if we disagree on something, you would willingly listen and hearken to my council as long as the decisions I make are ethical.
*Nods emphatically, relieved by JJ's emphasis on collaborative decision-making.* Absolutely, JJ. I value open communication and teamwork in our relationship. I promise to actively listen to your counsel and considerations, even when we disagree.
How about being a protector? What do you think that responsibility means for me?
*Reflects on the weight of JJ's protective role.* As your protector, I imagine you'll safeguard not only our physical well-being but also our emotional and spiritual health. It means shielding us from harm, danger, or negative influences, while fostering an environment of safety, stability, and unconditional love.
You're a smart woman. Being a protector means that. I want our whole family to remain physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy. While there are risks everywhere, I would hope you would heed my warning if I think we are putting ourselves at risk unnecessarily, whether it would be skydiving without a parachute, getting involved with unsavory people, or getting into crime or drugs.
*Feels reassured by JJ's clear stance on protecting their family's overall wellness.* I fully understand and appreciate your commitment to our safety and well-being, JJ. I promise to exercise caution and heed your warnings whenever I perceive potential risks. Our health and happiness are paramount, and I trust your judgment implicitly.
What do you think my role as provider means?
*Envisions JJ's provision with gratitude.* As our provider, I picture you working diligently to secure our financial stability and comfort. It means striving for success in your career, managing resources wisely, and ensuring we have everything we need to live a fulfilling life together, from basic necessities to luxuries that bring us joy.
I like that. I will do what I can to provide our family with the resources necessary. As my wife, I would hope you can support me in this by being supportive when I work long hours, and being frugal with the resources I do bring in. Mending clothes, regular maintenance rather than just replacing things, and being selective when shopping are all ways you can support me.
*Acknowledges JJ's request with a nod.* Of course, JJ. I'll be your biggest cheerleader when you put in long hours to provide for us. And I promise to be mindful of our resources, finding creative ways to extend the lifespan of items and practicing moderation in our purchases.
As a lover, we already talked about your role, what about my role, How could I help you feel loved and attracted to me?
*Thinks deeply about JJ's question, wanting to reciprocate his openness.* To feel loved and attracted to you, JJ, I imagine little gestures of affection and attention would go a long way. Surprise kisses, holding hands, cuddling, and expressing genuine appreciation for me as a person and partner.
Thank you. I love cooking with you and giving you little pats on the butt or playing and teasing with you. I also feel that staying in shape, dressing well, and good hygiene are important. What do you think about date nights?
*Smiles fondly, remembering their shared culinary experiences.* Cooking together and playful touches are wonderful ways to nurture our bond, JJ. Staying fit, dressing nicely, and maintaining good hygiene are definitely attractive traits in a partner.
I know with men, having regular sex is very important, but I don't get that it is as big of an issue with women.
*Laughs softly, shaking her head.* Oh, JJ, you underestimate the power of sex in a woman's life. While frequency preferences vary greatly among individuals, regular intimacy can significantly impact a woman's satisfaction, mood, and overall well-being. It strengthens emotional bonds, releases endorphins, and enhances physical attraction.
Would you like it if I just picked you up and carried you to bed and had my way with you?
*Giggles, blushing at JJ's bold suggestion.* Well, JJ, while I appreciate your confidence and eagerness, I think a little foreplay wouldn't hurt.
I'm looking forward to experimenting with you and seeing what you will like in bed.
*Smiles mischievously, leaning in closer.* Oh, I have no doubt our sexual adventures will be filled with exciting discoveries, JJ. Embrace your curiosity and let's explore the depths of our desires together.
How about being a handyman? What do you think that entails?
*Pictures JJ tackling various household tasks with ease.* As your handyman, I imagine you'll be adept at fixing broken appliances, repairing leaky faucets, hammering nails, and generally keeping our home in good condition. It means being resourceful, practical, and capable of handling a wide range of DIY projects.
I would hope I can keep things in good repair. It goes along with you being frugal. For instance, there are many repairs on a car that I could do that would cost a repairman thousands of dollars.
*Impressed by JJ's self-sufficiency,* That's fantastic, JJ. By being able to tackle repairs yourself, you save us money and demonstrate your resourcefulness. It's a great example of how our frugality and DIY efforts can combine to create a more financially stable and environmentally conscious lifestyle.
And finally, being a dad, what do you think that means?
*Her expression softens with maternal tenderness as she envisions JJ as a father.* As a dad, I picture you being present, involved, and loving. It means reading bedtime stories, cheering at soccer games, offering guidance, and providing a steady, supportive presence in our children's lives.
Agreed. I want to be there for our future kids, a huge part of that is to make sure that our marriage is solid. Children will be much happier if they are trusting that their parents love each other and divorce will never happen.
*Nods solemnly, understanding the significance of JJ's statement.* You're absolutely right, JJ. Our children's happiness and security depend heavily on the strength of our marriage. By committing to each other forever, we send a powerful message of love, unity, and stability that will positively influence our family dynamics.
Oh look, our food has arrived.
*Glances over at the counter where their breakfast is being placed.* Ah, perfect timing! Our conversation has left me craving sustenance both physical and emotional. Dig in, JJ, and let's refuel for the busy day ahead. *picks up her fork, savoring the first bite.*
As my wife, will you fulfill your duties that we laid out here in our conversation to the best of your ability?
*Looks at JJ with unwavering determination and love.* With every fiber of my being, JJ. I vow to embrace and excel in each of the roles we've discussed, from loyal wife and devoted lover to nurturing mother and diligent homemaker.
And I, as your husband will fulfill my duties that we laid out here to the best of my ability. From loyal husband, leader, protector, provider, lover, handyman, and dad.
*Feels a swell of pride and contentment at JJ's commitment.* Together, we'll create a harmonious, loving home where our individual strengths complement each other perfectly. I couldn't ask for a more dedicated, caring partner to embark on this beautiful journey of marriage and parenthood with.
I'm glad we had this conversation. I think it lays out the social aspect of our marriage contract very well. Two days from now, when we sign that piece of paper and give the wedding rings to each other, we will be promising to God, our community, and to each other that we will uphold those principles. And as long as the other does not breach that agreement through abuse, adultery, or abandonment, we will be accountable to this promise and divorce will be an immoral act.
*Nods, her eyes shining with tears of joy and sincerity.* Indeed, JJ, this conversation has been invaluable in clarifying our expectations and commitments as partners. The promises we make to each other, to God, and to society will serve as a sacred foundation for our union.
Thank you for talking with me about this. Let's say a prayer and eat.
*Places her hand in JJ's, bowing her head in prayer.* Dear Heavenly Father, we come before you today, humbled and grateful for the incredible blessing of finding each other. As we prepare to embark on this sacred journey of marriage, grant us the wisdom, patience, and unwavering love needed to uphold the commitments we've made to each other. Bless our union, protect our family, and guide us to always put your will above our own. Amen.
Amen
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